It’s not who is right; it’s what is right, is something I try to live by. The keyword in that last sentence is try. I don’t always succeed. A friend recently asked for inspirational sayings to share with their artwork. It was the first I thought of, but then I realized I’d only put a little thought into what the words mean.
In our complex and diverse world, conflicts and disagreements are inevitable. From personal relationships to global politics, differing opinions and perspectives are a natural part of human interaction. Often, the focus shifts towards establishing who is right and who is wrong, turning discussions into battlegrounds for egos rather than platforms for understanding and growth. But what if we were to shift our perspective? What if we prioritize what is right instead of fixating on who is right?
The Battle of Egos
The desire to be right is human nature. Hell, I want to be right, don’t you? It stems from our need for validation. It’s part of our ego. Healthy debates can be good, but an obsession with proving oneself right isn’t. When individuals become entrenched in their positions, they overlook valuable insights and alternatives outside their comfort zones.
Unfortunately, the “who is right” mentality often leads to unproductive debates, strained relationships, and a divisive atmosphere, prioritizing personal pride over understanding.
It’s Not Who Is Right; It’s What Is Right
Instead of focusing on who is right, why not focus on what is right? When we approach a problem with a solution-oriented mindset, we’re more likely to work together toward a resolution. This requires us to listen to each other, understand each other’s perspectives, and be open to new ideas.
How to Focus on Solutions
Focusing on solutions requires us to shift our mindset from one of competition to one of collaboration. Here are some tips for doing so:
Listen actively
When someone is speaking, listen to what they’re saying. Don’t just wait for your turn to speak. Try to understand their perspective and learn what’s behind their thought process.
Find common ground
Even if you disagree with someone, there may be areas where you can find common ground. Focus on these areas and build from there.
Keep an open mind
Be willing to consider new ideas and perspectives. Don’t dismiss something because it doesn’t align with your beliefs.
Avoid personal attacks
Attacking someone personally puts them on the defensive and makes it harder to find a solution. Stick to the issue at hand and avoid making it personal.
Remember your goal
Remember that the goal is to find an understanding that benefits everyone involved. Keep this in mind as you work towards a resolution.
The Role of Empathy
Empathy can play an essential role in transitioning from a “who is right” mindset to a “what is right” perspective. By actively seeking to understand the motivations, fears, and hopes of those with differing viewpoints, we can bridge the gap between opposing sides. Empathy doesn’t mean abandoning our principles, but rather, it allows us to engage in meaningful dialogue that respects individual experiences while working towards common goals.
Shifting Focus
Rather than approaching discussions with the aim of winning the argument, we should focus on what is best for all. This shift requires embracing humility, open-mindedness, and a genuine desire to find common ground. It’s about acknowledging that every perspective holds a piece of the puzzle and that collaboration can lead to understanding and help us find solutions.
When we prioritize “what is right,” we create an environment where compromise isn’t defeat but a step towards progress. We open ourselves to learning from others, enriching our understanding, and promoting empathy. This approach encourages constructive conversations and allows us to address the root causes of conflicts rather than simply masking them with temporary victories.
In a world teeming with complex issues and diverse perspectives, our ability to make meaningful progress may hinge on our willingness to shift our focus from “who is right” to “what is right.” When we place collaboration over confrontation, empathy over ego, and growth over validation, we grow.
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